Tomorrow is a whole new beginning...
Thanks for all the great discussion on the last topic. Some really great points made. Naturally, when I'm thinking on something, other things whirl about on tangents to that thought and some come to surface as partial thoughts themselves. One particular one is the following situation. You wake up tomorrow and things are different. You are living your life one way and suddenly, you have the opportunity to change everything. Where you live, where you work, who your friends are, cosmetic surgery, whatever. Everything that was, is now the beginning of some new possibility. Tomorrow is a whole new beginning.
First, in regards to employment, what would you really enjoy doing? Now that you've had time out in the job environment, if you had it to do over, would you stick where you are or find something else that interests you? I think that if I had the opportunity to go at it again, I might find myself doing somethign vastly different than what I am currently doing. I would like to be a software business analyst. Sure, lots of travel and long hours, but the sense of accomplishment, the challenge, the rewards... All things I'd like to have where I am, but isn't going to happen. Where I am right now is all the further I'll ever go, is all that I'll ever be. Which is good for stability, but then again, I've never really been about stability.
Next, as far as where I'd move to, I'd like to try down by Austin Texas, or Tybee Island Georgia, or maybe Port Angeles Washington. Someplace beautiful, has four seasons, nature nearby, maybe the ocean, who knows. Missouri has bene nice, but I want someplace new to adventure around, someplace I can take the RV out to and camp out for the weekend and enjoy the open spaces. Texas provides lots of desert, even the coast nearby, Georgia has the coast right there, with fresh seafood a local favorite and mine. But Washington offers the chance to whale watch which has been something I have wanted to go do for a long time. Just to be near a creature so gigantic yet majestic as they are...
For myself, I would get myself a personal trainer or a memebrship to a gym with access to one. I want to lose weight, but don't want to do it the easy way with sucking and surgery. I want it to come off the healthy way, slow and steady. I don't want to pound the weights several hours a day, I want to do this just like I put it on, slow and natural. Just not taking as many years though. One or two would be good. I mean, I do have over 100 pounds more to lose. I'm not the kind of person to do the cosmetic surgery, I don't want a cleft chin, pec implants, but lift or tummy tuck. I'm pretty happy with myself the way I am and as long as I am happy, who cares if anyone else thinks I'm a fat slob. Well, kind of a slob anyways. I pick up my dirty clothes, usually. LOL.
Finally, friends. I have a good group of friends, a few best friends and many acquaintances. I wouldn't want to lose any of the good friends, but I think that would never happen no matter where I moved or whatever I became. They'd still be there to send me a dirty email, call me to bug me once in a while or simply ask if I'm still alive. I think those bonds, once forged, are there forever. So, if you've read along this far into this mess, you should have realized one very important factor. If there is something you are wanting to change, something you would like to see different about yourself, there may never be a magic new beginning. Yet, there is always tomorrow, a new day waiting for new things to happen. All you have to do is have the confidence in yourself to see the change you want to become and make it happen.
I hope tomorrow finds all of you who are thinking of change not sitting idly by and waiting for something to happen for you, but instead getting out and making those things happen. As is oft quoted, the only things we regret are those that we failed to attempt. Now get out there and make something happen!
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Still enjoying the fun/meaningfulness otherwise, though--hard to complain really. :-)
Been thinking about this a lot lately. If I could do it over, I'd get a degree in graphic design and I'd just do freelance work, mainly websites. I'd also work on crafts and try and get into selling online and in craft shows.
What I really want to do...is be a stay at home mom. The above would give me the opportunity to stay home and still do some work and make some money. However this wont work unless I find someone really rich to marry, because I'm super super in debt and make less than half my debt a year in my job that I hate.
Oh gods, my life sucks.
It's not all it's cracked up to be, but it's interesting to see that someone else wants my life. I'll have to remember that when I start whining about things. :)
You have inspired me in so many ways, while going through shit of your own.
Life is good.....and it's always what we make it.
Be strong,always. xoxoxo
I listened pretty well to what Dad had to say. He sat me down one day and asked me about the future. Did I want a house, a car, nice car? Wife, kids, etc... When he got done, he started tacking dollar amounts onto those items. House costs this much, car, that much. Wife and kids, add in lots of zeros. LOL. But at the end, he showed me a figure and said that I'd have to make at least this much to have that dream become a reality.
Since then, I've always looked to that number, no matter how the other things varied, cars, house, etc..., the end result is always a number. Make more than that and spend wisely and you'll always come out on top.
Hey, it may not be all glamorous, but being a Mom is a very difficult job. You are on call 24/7, there is no vacation or sick leave. And even when the kids are grown and gone, there is always follow up work to be done... LOL
Thanks Dear. You also have been an inspiration of mne, going out and doing that in life which makes you happiest. Whether that is just hanging out with the kids or going for a long scenic walk along the forest trails.
I don't know that that matters though, because we have one laundromat in Smalltown and I don't think they have any services.
Yes Love and it is very comforting to know. I hope you also know that I am here for you as well. xoxoxo
Well, it worked so well that I moved out when I was 18, bought my first house when I was 19, already made my first million and well on the way towards #2. Money is just money though. When I moved back to the midwest, I sat down and ran the numbers on housing costs, food, etc and came up with a dollar per hour figure I would need to make. Beat that by over $3 with the job I got. Things were good.
As for being me, it's always better to be yourself. LOL. If you have a dream of something, don't be afraid to go for it. Make things happen because no one wants to be a passenger in their own life. Grab the wheel and drive like a maniac. LOL
But as for tomorrow, well that is a matter of new choices. It is good to be reminded that we do not have to stay where we are. Sometimes we make choices today based on how we are living today instead of on how we want to live tomorrow.
Kzinti, I love reading your posts because they always make me think. thanks for that
Kind of bad to quote Fight Club, but the scene where Tyler has a gun to the Convenient Store clerk's head and asking him what he wants to do in life, that means a lot. Does it really take a gun being put to our head to make that choice clear adn present? To push us to go out and do that which we already want to do?
Or would we rather live like the main character in Office Space, where every day keeps getting worse than the one before. When on any given day, that day, is the worst day of your life? Not for this Monkey Cowboy...LOL
<blush> aww... shucks... I love you too...
I was going to go for the Dungeons and Dragons Player Character versus Non-Player Character thing, you know, if you aren't rolling your own dice, someone is rolling them for you, but didn't want to come off as too much of a geeky nerd. LOL
Just washers and dryers and some lightbulbs.
Except for sometimes being a moody grouch I can't think of barely anything I would change.
I love working in the hospital lab. The work is always interesting. Often frustrating and annoying, but without the negatives I wouldn't appreciate the positives.
Management now sucks. But that would happen almost anywhere. As long as they stay out of my way to let me do my job I am happy there.
My kids are doing great. Now that I am Empty Nest mama it's almost like I never had them. But....I wouldn't undo any of the time spent raising them.
Body? It's fine except for the face....sagging jowls, deep thought lines between the eyes. I'm 53. And, naaaaah, I wouldn't change anything...WAIT....take away the arthritis and fibromyalgia! That I WOULD do. And could I please not have to wear reading glasses anymore? ;)
Friends....excellent. Spouse...excellent. House.....cluttered....too many animals...but excellent.
I was actually very upset this week about a lot of extended family issues that have been going on for years....but this (and a discussion this week with my mom, dad, son and his wife) have helped me realize that all families have wackos and my getting upset is not going to anything but get me upset.
So, thanks for inspiring me to think about this!!!
HMMM....do you think maybe I am just too tired to imagine starting a whole new life??? LOL!
When all the kids move out, it really is a whole new day. I keep hoping for that day to come and stay... Damn kids... LOL
And now....it's over, for the most part....they are independent, intelligent, spectacular adults....and I can't believe that it's done. ;)
You'll be amazed how weird it is....in many good ways...when they are out on their own! :)
port angeles is sure getting an assload of press. from the internets one assumes. people from god-knows-where are always talking about wanting to move there for the whale watching, etc.
old mill town my father grew up in. greeks did well in shipping. it's cloudy, beautiful (i've only been once: dad wasn't close to his family), and significantly deforested from how it was when i was growing up. but otherwise, i hope you've got your millions intact and in a good retirement fund 'cause, unless i've got my facts wrong and there's a giant software or automotive interest lurking about, there's no fucking work out there....
i think sequim with it's recent cred as the location of that popular vampire tv series (i don't know what its name is) and all the filming that's gone on around the area has made the 'nins seem pretty appealing. don't get me wrong: it's god's country, but unless you want to be a greeter at wal-mart...
you were on the receiving end of some really good advice. it seems mechanical, but dad had the wisdom to instruct you that this is how the world really works, and to use your talents (which are obviously extensive) to best forward your goals. i mean, you told him what you wanted, and he told you how to get there. nothing wrong with that....
i don't know what i want to do when i grow up. be a monkey-wrencher, get a masters in women's studies and save the world, be an intrepid journalist. the only thing that came close to useful advice was my brother (the self-appointed 'man of the house') discussing my career options with my mother, alluding to me in the third person while i stood by, saying: 'well, she's a good writer in the journalistic sense of the word (the lowest form of written expression, presumably), but there's really nothing to say in this world.' i was like fourteen..
the kind of backhanded advice that i could always count on in the guise of familial support..
sorry. made this about me...
At least you had a point to make. I have spent time researching properties, business interests and such in the area. A lot of online stuff I can do, such as network admin, server watcher, etc... and make decent money through online. It isn't as costly in Sequim or some of the southern outlying areas, the more remote, the cheaper it is. Which is fine with me. I think I'd like to go off-grid living someday soon. Wouldn't take much to live out there. Internet connection would probably be the most expensive thing way out there. LOL.
I think that with your tenacity, your work ethic, you would be great at whatever you chose to do. Probelm is, you need to find something to choose. SO, looking back over the years, what are some jobs that interest you? What are your life loves, besides chopping oversexed monkey boy's nether regions in blenders... Is it the arts? Is it writing? If you had the option of not working and just doing that which you loved, what would that be?
Deep Thoughts, by Jack Handy...
maybe i've come further than most in being able to ponder ideas in my spare time.......restaurant work allows for much spare time... and myriad esoteric *hiccup* hungover renderings....
don't dispute the ideas of the perpetually hung. over....
if you can kick it (i love the point about one's internet connection being the most potentially inaccessible thing, on or off the grid) then please, please, please knock out the locals with your mad rad skillz and whale watch to your heart's content. because what this part of the country lacks is people with iq's over a buck fiddy who are unbelievably wonderful....
Uh, yeah, kids do look upon you as ATMs.... Don't they? You always tell me they are pushing your buttons... LOL.
And wow, you managed to cram like four posts into one comment. Awesomeness. You having an OK night? Having a brain is only part of the equation. Many people also have a heart too, but because most people only look at the exterior, these not so beautiful, intelligent, heartfelt people get overlooked quite often...
how did i manage to comment on myself? barf...unwitting programming error resulting in narcissistic assumptions and too much grey text
so come up to the 'nins'.
everyone's asleep here..
i'm looking forward. however, lose the term 'bucket list (no, unfortch it's not regional)' or i'll be force to kill you.
see how i do that?
~lichen
But the fun comes with the grandkids adn the Mom's Curse. When my wife threw that at the middle daughter, she had no idea. Middle daughter used to play in shampoo, she'd use a whole bottle in the tub if you didn't keep an eye on her. She'd play with it even when she wasn't in the tub. Alas, the curse was issued, "I hope your kids turn out to be just like you...". Fast forward to last night, we are done watching fireworks, sitting in the truck, waiting for a spot int eh traffic line and the three year old grandson comes up with a handful of real poo from his pants. It was like you dropped a nuclear warhead in the middle of the truck...
SO, needless to say, it was a great end to the evening. LOL. Good thing I was prepared and had a couple of rolls of TP in the truck, don't leave home without it! I also had a bottle of water, so we improvised wipes and cleaned him up as best we could. Don't know why this kid gets so many frequent visits from the Poop Fairy, must have something to do with that curse. Only instead of playing with SHAMpoo, he plays with real poo... LOLOL
Great story!!!
My sis has lots of poo stories. My kids are now 26, 24 and 22 and her kids are 4, 3 and 9 months.
LOTS of poo stories!!! And, she's welcome to them! I can wait for grandkids! :D
But, I'll love 'em to pieces!!!